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Romancing the quilter

July 12, 2013

My partner and I had an anniversary on the 10th.  It was the 6th year after the day we met.  We have never married, but we still celebrate this as our anniversary because we feel that we are life-long partners and we may as well be married.  It was actually super-love at first sight.  We saw each other, talked all night and just knew it was destiny that we be together.

I know that sounds very very corny, but it really does happen.  I never believed in it either until it happened to me.

Anyway, I have recently been making fun of us.  The "so exciting" couple.  I sit on the futon in the evenings quilting, he sits on the couch working on his model cars.  I guess we are at least still in the same room and we are enjoying the movie or whatever is on the tv at the time together.  We talk during our hobby sessions, but we don't cuddle like we used to.  We used to lie on the couch together snuggled up in a knot watching the tube, or just watching the fire and talking.

Our anniversary evening was spent in this same old fashion.  He working on his craft and me on mine.  He actually fell asleep very early while I stitched away.  I wasn't mad or angry about this.  I actually enjoyed the evening and got much accomplished.

Last night on the other hand we spent in the swimming pool together.  WOW, how much fun we had!  It was one of those nice warm evenings, the pool temperature was at a very hot 100 degrees but very enjoyable as we just bobbed around talking and enjoying the company of each other.  I didn't miss quilting at all!  I think it will be one of those special nights that you remember forever even though nothing particularly spectacular happened.  It was just a very nice together evening.

It got me to thinking if quilting is getting in the way of our romance?  I do miss our early constant intimacy, but this morning I also feel that I neglected the quilt.  I am SO close to completing the quilting of my first row of the Crazy Rainbow Rows.  It will be done the next time I sit down to it and this is going to be a very busy weekend with much going on that is not sewing friendly. 

I actually think I started quilting because of the natural lack of romance after the first few years together.  I needed something to keep my mind occupied and my hands busy.  Jim is a sickly man.  There are many days that he just doesn't feel good and I definitely needed something to take up some time while he recovers from this or that illness. 

Do any of you feel the same way?  Do your hobbies get in the way of your romance?  Do you use your craft to occupy a void that used to be romance?

Published Fri, Jul 12 2013 8:45 AM by Jenia


# re: Romancing the quilter@ Sunday, July 14, 2013 2:23 PM

I don't quilt to fill a void, but I know that my quilting activities have gotten in the way of my love life. Balancing my quilting with the other areas of my life has become very important in the last three years. It has made a world of difference in my relationships; not just my husband. We just celebrated our 33rd anniversary on Friday. Wow!

by Pamela

# re: Romancing the quilter@ Sunday, July 14, 2013 4:59 PM

Wow, congratulations on your 33rd anniversary, Pamela.  Your doing something right :>). You must have the balancing act set perfectly!

by Jenia